One minute they are happy with life; the next, they hate everything.It is a peak time of physical growth for boys and girls. Their appearance begins to be important to them so they brush their teeth and shower more. These physical changes often drive behavior, especially when it comes to their burgeoning sexuality—so figuring out when and how to respond is like a high-wire act for parents. They respond more strongly to social rewards like a friend’s approval or disapproval. My 12 year old daughter has asked me when she can start dating.
And it made me realize that we, as parents, have a pretty wide range of ideas on what age kids should be allowed to start dating and even on what dating means at various ages.
They were laughing about another friend who was “dating” a girl. It got me wondering what exactly “dating” means to middle schoolers, and whether it’s a good idea at that age.
As many parents know, adolescents between the ages of 12 and 15 can be the most perplexing and frustrating humans on the planet.
Shoot.” He stuttered in a way that that was slightly more uncomfortable than usual for him, so I knew he wasn’t asking me about an essay or an assignment.
“Well, it’s more that I need advice.” I prodded a bit more as he fumbled through his words before he finally got out his request.